It’s, therefore, a good skill to focus on as parents. Unlike rational intelligence (IQ) which is fixed, or at least quite hard to change, Emotional Intelligence (EQ) can be practised and developed at any age. It’s free.Emotional Intelligence For Dads (as presented on Facebook in May 2020) What is emotional intelligence?Įmotional Intelligence is the ability to recognise and manage emotions in ourselves and others. If you identify with Jasmine, you can learn more about whether you grew up with Childhood Emotional Neglect. Hopefully she will learn who she really is. Hopefully she will start beating down those Voices of Low Emotional Intelligence. Hopefully she will realize that she has emotions, and will learn how to value and hear and manage and speak them. Hopefully she will see that she missed out on some vital building blocks, simply because her parents did not know. The reality is, she must now learn these skills on her own. My emotions make me stronger.Īs an adult, Jasmine must stop fantasizing about a solution knocking on her door. Im not lazy, I have anxiety and Im trying my best to face it. The voice that knows you and has compassion for what you didnt get from your parents. When that voice from your childhood speaks, stop listening. Talk back to those false messages in your head.Your wife, your husband, your sibling or friend? Practice talking about your feelings with someone you trust. Think about who in your life right now can teach you. Listen to how other people express their emotions, and start practicing yourself. Start observing others feelings and behavior. Pay attention to what you feel, when and why. Learn everything you can about emotion.Is it too late for Jasmine? Is it too late for you? What can be done if you grew up this way?įortunately, it is not too late for Jasmine or for you. You are living the life of Childhood Emotional Neglect. You are out of touch with your true self (your emotional self), you see yourself through the eyes of people who never really knew you, and you have great difficulty handling situations that are stressful, conflictual or difficult. Youre lazy, Youre weak, say The Voices of Low Emotional Intelligence at every opportunity.Īll of these results leave you struggling, baffled and confused. The Result: You go forward into adulthood with the wrong voices in your head. Your siblings call you crybaby and treat you as if youre weak because you cried for days after your beloved cat was run over by a car. So your parents act as if youre lazy because they havent noticed that its your anxiety that holds you back from doing things. Since your parents dont understand emotions, they give you many wrong messages about yourself and the world through their words and behavior.
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